Men, take the leap into matchmaking!

The allure of dating apps can be hard to resist, especially with the promise of endless possibilities at your fingertips. Unfortunately, though, swiping right has lost its charm for many men, leaving them more frustrated than fulfilled.
If you feel you’ve been lost in a world of disappointing dates and ghosted conversations, you’re not alone. Globally, dating apps are losing active users^[1] and dating app fatigue is real and on the rise. ^[2] But when you’re ready to leave, what’s the next step? If you’ve exhausted all your friends and family for the next potential date, then where do you turn? This is when a professional matchmaker can step in —BUT for many men, taking this step can feel like a step too far, says Compatico’s Sex and Relationship Therapist Alexander Terblanche.
‘A lot of guys might think, 'I'll just keep trying on my own,” but there's a big difference when you have someone in your corner guiding you toward like-minded people,’ he says.

Men have long been told to be self-reliant and to handle their problems. Asking for help? That's for other people, right? Wrong! Alexander explains, ‘From a young age, boys are socialised to be the heroes of their own stories—solving problems on their own without sharing their struggles.’ he says.
Alexander draws a parallel between the reluctance to seek therapy and the reluctance to engage with a matchmaker. ‘Men often delay seeking help until things are at a breaking point—whether it’s their health, relationships, or other areas of life. They’re conditioned to view asking for help as admitting defeat,’ he says.
This reluctance can extend to dating, where the fear of being judged or appearing vulnerable can prevent men from taking that first step.

If you're worried that using a matchmaker means you've failed at dating, it's time for a perspective shift. Alexander puts it perfectly: ‘Think of it as levelling up,’ he explains.
‘When you work with a matchmaker, you’re giving yourself the best chance to meet someone who truly aligns with your values and interests. It’s not about admitting you can’t do it alone—it’s about being smart and making the process more efficient and enjoyable.’
Matchmakers are dedicated to understanding who you are and what you’re looking for in a partner. They take time to know your passions, values and what makes you tick so they can introduce you to people who complement you. It’s a tailored approach that apps just can’t offer.

Still feeling nervous? That’s totally understandable, says Alexander. The good news is that seeing if a matchmaking service is for you is easier than you think.
‘We offer an initial conversation that’s completely free and without any obligation,’ he says. ‘It’s just a chance to explore whether Compatico is the right fit for you.’

This no-pressure, no-strings-attached chat is a great way to see if a matchmaker can help you find the meaningful connection you’ve been looking for.

Ready to take the leap? Contact Compatico - no swiping required