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Here, compatibility meets chemistry. Compatico offers a bespoke matchmaking service for New Zealanders aged 40+ who feel excluded from online dating models, providing opportunities to meet like-minded, like-aged partners in a curated environment.

The human story behind Compatico

We humans are hard-wired to develop a close connection with someone. We all want to feel loved and cared for, at every age. However, the challenges of dating don’t get easier as you get older, with few opportunities to meet a partner of a similar age. Many of us end up resorting to apps and online dating sites that often ‘gamify’ the serious business of finding a trusted partner, leaving us feeling disappointed, distrustful and disillusioned.
That was what Compatico’s Founder, Theresa Gattung, discovered when, after taking a health pause in a highly successful career, she tried dating again (after a 30-year gap) and realised she needed some help getting back into the dating saddle.
A high-achieving businesswoman and celebrated philanthropist who advocates for gender equality, Theresa tried a few dating services, but the experience left her underwhelmed. She couldn’t find a bespoke matchmaking service for mature daters, particularly one that delivered the truly customised experience she was seeking. So, as a lifetime problem solver, Theresa founded Compatico as a premium, personalised, wraparound matchmaking service designed for people aged 40+ to find a partner in life and love. She hand-picked a team of professionals to co-create and launch the business and Compatico came to life – the bespoke matchmaking service that’s based on real, human connection.
Online dating apps have finally met their match.

Our matchmaking service is built on the psychology of smart profiling, human intelligence, and intuitive, personal connections. No more swiping. No more fake profiles. No more painstaking dates with unsuitable people (thankfully!).

Instead, Compatico provides an intelligent, empathetic and sophisticated approach, where you’re supported by a team of professionals to genuinely connect with compatible dates who have real profiles.

With a qualified team of matchmakers offering wraparound professional relationship advice, a team of stylists and photographers to help members feel and look their best on their dating journey, and curated events to practise your skills and enjoy social connections, Compatico delivers a new standard in finding a partner in New Zealand.

You’re never too old to fall in love.

We believe that everyone deserves a chance to find love, yet our research tells us that many mature singles have had negative experiences using today’s impersonal dating models. Many reported that there was no chemistry with their matches, their values were not aligned, and the process was too time-consuming ­– and over two-thirds never found the right partner.

Compatico was founded to address this imbalance and provide a viable, personalised option for those over 40 years who are seeking an authentic and lasting relationship. We use a blend of innovation and human matchmaking expertise in our ‘art of matching’ to create an authentic connection.

Our team of specialist matchmakers and expert partners provides a tailored service where you’re treated with the respect commensurate with your maturity. Our aim is to deliver a ‘best in class’, secure, empathetic and efficient service to help mature singles find their true match.

Founders

Theresa Gattung

Founder

Theresa Gattung

Founder

“A high-energy and demanding career can be a lonely lifestyle. So, when I took a health pause a few years back, I recognised some things needed to change, including meeting more people outside of work and, potentially, a relationship. Great plan, except it’s not that simple when your dating skills are 30 years out of date.”

Much has been written about Theresa Gattung. She’s well known in New Zealand and admired for her significant achievements and her philanthropy. And one of the reasons for Theresa’s success is because she is exceptionally good at solving problems. In fact, she is relentless until she finds a solution.

So, when Theresa realised it was harder than she thought to find a partner in her 50s, she put her hand up for help and investigated a range of services and platforms. Nothing on offer delivered on Theresa’s expectations. And, true to type, she turned to her distinctive problem-solving mode and decided to create a matchmaking service that delivers the best-possible customer experience.

In founding Compatico, Theresa has curated a best-in-class, premium service for the many mature people who have difficulty in finding a trusted and meaningful relationship in the second act of life.

Co-creating Compatico has been her new passion. She has had buckets of fun along the way, curating an inspiring team of professionals – all great connectors – to develop and bring Compatico to life for New Zealanders. Theresa has merged her personal life and deep professional experience in building a trusted resource that we believe will be valued by many.

Deborah Pead

Managing Partner

Compatico Communications

Deborah Pead

Managing Partner

Compatico Communications

“Malcolm Gladwell could have been describing me when he labelled some people as Connectors in his debut book, The Tipping Point. As a PR career professional with more than 40 years’ experience, I’ve built a successful business in New Zealand and supported the growth of many household-name brands by shaping a positive image and then connecting that image with a wider audience. I am excited to bring my skills into this best-in-class matchmaking service to help more people connect in their mature years.”

Deborah Pead has always been mindful of the influence and power of a positive image. As a professional brand builder, she knows it changes the way people respond and engage. She has also seen what loneliness can do to people; how it can rob them of simple everyday joys, and age them before their time.

When Theresa shared her idea for a new business and a solution to loneliness, Deborah saw the intrinsic value of using communications in helping people find the joy of a match. She jumped at the chance of being a part of the operation and working with a dynamic group of professionals in co-creating Compatico.

Cindy Mitchener

Managing Partner

Compatico Matching

Cindy Mitchener

Managing Partner

Compatico Matching

“In one way or another I have been connecting people for more than 40 years, at first through teaching, and then through media and advertising. I perfected the art of connecting in a very successful boutique executive recruitment agency. And I am furthering my connection skills by completing relationship counselling qualifications, which I can’t wait to use to help people find lasting and fulfilling personal connections.”

In the early days of her career Cindy Mitchener was a teacher in breadline areas. It was a tough role for a young woman and on returning from an OE, she moved into the world of media and quickly advanced through the ranks to several high-profile roles including Director of Sales and Marketing at TV3, National Media Director at Saatchi & Saatchi and Chief Executive at eVentures.

Working in media and advertising, Cindy was heavily invested in researching and understanding the New Zealand psyche and was the inaugural Chairperson of the AC Nielsen Ratings Panel. When a change of pace beckoned again, she formalised her networking in executive recruitment, initially as a partner in a specialist business and then for herself at Mitchener & Associates.

Cindy appreciates the fine art of putting the right person into the right job. She believes that so much matchmaking rests on culture and understanding the idiosyncrasies of people. These are nuances that cannot be detected by a software program. She is a firm advocate of the human touch and believes that people connect with people, not algorithms.

Cindy knows it isn’t easy to put oneself out there and is excited by Compatico’s offering for mature singles. Her skills and knowledge in leading a team of matchmakers will ensure Compatico delivers a great experience for members and successful matches..

Compatico is a win-win for Cindy. She gets to do what she loves best and work with an amazing group of women helmed by the splendid Theresa Gattung.

Tiare Tolks

BA, MSc (first-class hons), PGDip (Health Psychology)

Managing Partner

Compatico Relationship Expert

Tiare Tolks

BA, MSc (first-class hons), PGDip (Health Psychology)

Managing Partner

Compatico Relationship Expert

“Finding love is hard, and it is particularly difficult today. The loneliness epidemic is real, and people crave connection with real people. Connection creates a ripple effect which makes for a better world. The prospect of creating many more connections through the exemplary service curated for Compatico excites me and I am delighted to be part of this much-needed service in New Zealand.”

With a background as a psychologist, relationship therapist ( Emotion Focussed Therapy trained) and corporate leadership coach, Tiare brings all her knowledge into the collaborative co-creation of Compatico. Tiare’s core value is entrenched in connection, and she is delighted to bring her professional acumen and deep understanding of human behaviour to this service.

Beyond the initial allure and excitement of a new romance Tiare knows the essential elements required to nurture healthy and fulfilling relationships. She is enthusiastic about contributing to the creation of more authentic love in the world by sharing her knowledge and insights with the Compatico community.

Andrea Hammond

Managing Partner

Compatico Experiences

Andrea Hammond

Managing Partner

Compatico Experiences

“It is an honour and a joy to work with the Compatico crew to invest our time, diverse skills, and energy into connecting people. I am inspired by the building of a purpose-led business that can make a real difference. Connecting people is a pleasure and an instinct to me; I have been told for many years that it’s my calling and a natural talent!”

Andrea Hammond is another one of Compatico’s natural-born connectors. She is a professional communicator who works in marketing, advertising, PR and brand strategy. Andrea has a great reputation for helping people and brands work out what to say, how to get their story across and how to put their best foot forward. Her talent has inspired many memorable occasions, and Compatico members will get to see her flair through our unique line-up of exclusive experiences.

Andrea is an arts and culture fan, trustee of the Arts Foundation Te Tumu Toi, and collaborates with artists and arts organisations including the British Council, Anton Forde, and Aotearoa New Zealand Festival of the Arts.

Jen Cheyne

Managing Partner

Brand and Operations

Jen Cheyne

Managing Partner

Brand and Operations

“Being part of building Compatico, a company whose values resonate deeply with me, is a highlight of my career. Our members will undoubtedly experience the positive energy behind the business and its people and I feel privileged to be able to share my enthusiasm and creativity with the Compatico partners and its wider community”

My overarching purpose is about facilitating connections through brands and operations that captivates hearts and minds with integrity. As an award-winning creative director and a decisive decision maker I continually push boundaries with cutting edge branding and design concepts. Creating enduring brands from the top down aligns with my strengths and business acumen and I am delighted to have contributed my experience to the creation of Compatico.

Our Team

Cindy Mitchener

Managing Partner

Compatico Matching

Cindy Mitchener

Managing Partner

Compatico Matching

“In one way or another I have been connecting people for more than 40 years, at first through teaching, and then through media and advertising. I perfected the art of connecting in a very successful boutique executive recruitment agency. And I am furthering my connection skills by completing relationship counselling qualifications, which I can’t wait to use to help people find lasting and fulfilling personal connections.”

In the early days of her career Cindy Mitchener was a teacher in breadline areas. It was a tough role for a young woman and on returning from an OE, she moved into the world of media and quickly advanced through the ranks to several high-profile roles including Director of Sales and Marketing at TV3, National Media Director at Saatchi & Saatchi and Chief Executive at eVentures.

Working in media and advertising, Cindy was heavily invested in researching and understanding the New Zealand psyche and was the inaugural Chairperson of the AC Nielsen Ratings Panel. When a change of pace beckoned again, she formalised her networking in executive recruitment, initially as a partner in a specialist business and then for herself at Mitchener & Associates.

Cindy appreciates the fine art of putting the right person into the right job. She believes that so much matchmaking rests on culture and understanding the idiosyncrasies of people. These are nuances that cannot be detected by a software program. She is a firm advocate of the human touch and believes that people connect with people, not algorithms.

Cindy knows it isn’t easy to put oneself out there and is excited by Compatico’s offering for mature singles. Her skills and knowledge in leading a team of matchmakers will ensure Compatico delivers a great experience for members and successful matches..

Compatico is a win-win for Cindy. She gets to do what she loves best and work with an amazing group of women helmed by the splendid Theresa Gattung.

Jo Stredder

Professional Matchmaker

Compatico Matching

Jo Stredder

Professional Matchmaker

Compatico Matching

“I am passionate about making people feel supported as they navigate their future and Compatico aligns with my belief that you focus on the person first. The rest will follow. I have learned that true and meaningful connections only happen when one is feeling good about oneself. And when that happens, the heart opens.”

Jo Stredder is a professional matchmaker with a BSc (hons) in Psychology and a PGDip Psychotherapy. Her natural intuition in comprehending human nature and her innate ability to connect and build trust with people enables quality and insightful networking.

Jo hails from the UK and moved to New Zealand in her twenties. In leaving her well established personal and professional networks, Jo had to rebuild her connections and her professional reputation and create new friendships.

Over the years Jo has embraced the diversity of the industries she has been fortunate to work in. And at the heart of it, it is the appeal of working with people that charms her.

Before joining Compatico Jo specialised in a People and Culture role, skilfully managing a wide variety of people in work situations.

Tiare Tolks

BA, MSc (first-class hons), PGDip (Health Psychology)

Managing Partner

Compatico Relationship Expert

Tiare Tolks

BA, MSc (first-class hons), PGDip (Health Psychology)

Managing Partner

Compatico Relationship Expert

“Finding love is hard, and it is particularly difficult today. The loneliness epidemic is real, and people crave connection with real people. Connection creates a ripple effect which makes for a better world. The prospect of creating many more connections through the exemplary service curated for Compatico excites me and I am delighted to be part of this much-needed service in New Zealand.”

With a background as a psychologist, relationship therapist ( Emotion Focussed Therapy trained) and corporate leadership coach, Tiare brings all her knowledge into the collaborative co-creation of Compatico. Tiare’s core value is entrenched in connection, and she is delighted to bring her professional acumen and deep understanding of human behaviour to this service.

Beyond the initial allure and excitement of a new romance Tiare knows the essential elements required to nurture healthy and fulfilling relationships. She is enthusiastic about contributing to the creation of more authentic love in the world by sharing her knowledge and insights with the Compatico community.

Andrea Hammond

Managing Partner

Compatico Experiences

Andrea Hammond

Managing Partner

Compatico Experiences

“It is an honour and a joy to work with the Compatico crew to invest our time, diverse skills, and energy into connecting people. I am inspired by the building of a purpose-led business that can make a real difference. Connecting people is a pleasure and an instinct to me; I have been told for many years that it’s my calling and a natural talent!”

Andrea Hammond is another one of Compatico’s natural-born connectors. She is a professional communicator who works in marketing, advertising, PR and brand strategy. Andrea has a great reputation for helping people and brands work out what to say, how to get their story across and how to put their best foot forward. Her talent has inspired many memorable occasions, and Compatico members will get to see her flair through our unique line-up of exclusive experiences.

Andrea is an arts and culture fan, trustee of the Arts Foundation Te Tumu Toi, and collaborates with artists and arts organisations including the British Council, Anton Forde, and Aotearoa New Zealand Festival of the Arts.

Dr Madeleine Amie

Dating Coach

Compatico Partner Psychologist

Dr Madeleine Amie

Dating Coach

Compatico Partner Psychologist

“I’ve always taken a holistic approach to wellbeing, so it was no surprise to anyone who knows me that my PhD, Rangatahi Wellbeing Needs in Alternative Education, explored the needs of rangatahi from both a Māori and a Western perspective. My research highlighted the importance of connections in building social ecosystems, and as a practitioner I have focused on strengthening relationships and building connections and communities to best support wellbeing outcomes.  I am excited to walk alongside others as they embark on their dating journey.”

Madeleine (BA (Psych), PGDip (Psych), PhD) has worked in the field of Psychology for more than 15 years with people of all ages and stages. With her deep insights and understanding of human attachment she knows how to help people build and maintain close connections and healthy relationships. Madeleine understands that making new contacts and meeting people can be daunting, and so she’s driven to support people in overcoming the challenges they may be experiencing in the dating world. She knows that when we tap into our own emotional wisdom we will be more at ease with our authentic selves and be better prepared for meaningful and loving connections.

Madeleine has happily accepted the chance to join Compatico’s dedicated team, who truly believe in enabling an authentic, enjoyable and rewarding matchmaking experience.

Alexander Terblanche

Sex and Relationship Therapist

Compatico Partner Sexologist & Psychotherapist

Alexander Terblanche

Sex and Relationship Therapist

Compatico Partner Sexologist & Psychotherapist

"In my career, I have seen tension between couples, and I am reminded of just how disillusioned many people feel within a relationship, despite the importance of a healthy relationship in our overall wellbeing. So, I am excited to be a part of Compatico's initiative-taking approach to dating and relationships and with the chance to change the way we develop new relationships. We all know the idiom that prevention is better than cure and I am looking forward to the opportunity to foster confidence through self-awareness right at the forefront of a new partnership."

Alexander Terblanche MSxlgy (Professional), PGDipSxlgy, PGDipPsychotherapySt, PGDipCounsTh has always championed self-aware relationships, a focus that was nurtured during two decades of health education, behaviour change facilitation, and specialist academic study in the fields of psychotherapy, counselling and human sexuality. Alexander is also among a handful in New Zealand with a master’s qualification in Sexology. Through his foundation in evidence-based techniques, he empowers clients to cultivate enduring connections, whether they are re-entering the dating scene or enriching existing relationships.

He is looking forward to assisting members in reaching their relationship aspirations alongside the exceptional Compatico team.

Lisa Matson

Photographer, Stylist

Compatico Services

Lisa Matson

Photographer, Stylist

Compatico Services

"Joining the team at Compatico was an easy decision for me. Not only do I get to work alongside a group of exceptional women whom I admire and respect both personally and professionally, but also I get to pursue my passion for making people look their best and to capture them while they are feeling most confident. The ability to transform people through my expertise in make-up artistry, hairstyling, photography, and fashion styling is a dream job, and I’m thrilled to have this opportunity with Compatico and its members.”

Lisa Matson is a prominent stylist in New Zealand, highly sought after by premium beauty and multinational consumer brands alike. Her exceptional abilities extend beyond her eye-catching photography and include make-up design, creative direction and styling. With an impressive portfolio that includes collaborations with local and international celebrities, as well as a track record of successful beauty events, fashion shows and advertising campaigns, Lisa has established herself as a leader in her field. Her illustrious 10-year role as L’Oreal Paris make-up director in New Zealand further attests to her expertise and influence.

Beyond her professional accomplishments, Lisa's respected reputation extends to the media, where she is regularly consulted for her insights and opinions on the beauty and fashion industry by many of New Zealand’s most popular magazines.

Stacey Beatson

Stylist

Compatico Services

Stacey Beatson

Stylist

Compatico Services

"I love the positive energy and boost in confidence that a personal styling session can provide to people. I believe that one’s personal style is a pathway to personal development and is as important as spiritual and mental health and physical wellbeing. It communicates who you are in everything you do, not just in what you wear."

Stacey Beatson is a New Zealand-based stylist and is well known for her fashion and beauty expertise through her in-demand style services. Prior to becoming a stylist and establishing her thriving business Stacey had a successful career as a hairdresser and make-up artist, giving her a holistic approach to evolving her clients' style and beauty.

Her clients will tell you that working with Stacey is an enlightening and empowering process and those who have experienced her handheld journey of self-discovery have a new understanding of the styles that complement and work for them. From wardrobe edits to home makeovers, Stacey brings an energy that leaves people feeling more confident about new prospects in careers, love and enjoyment of life.

Stacey brings the gift of personal style to Compatico and she is looking forward to assisting Compatico members on their own personal journeys.

Anna Clark

Stylist

Compatico Services

Anna Clark

Stylist

Compatico Services

"What I find most fulfilling as a personal stylist is witnessing the transformation in individuals with the assistance of a thoughtfully curated wardrobe. By incorporating figure-flattering, fashionable and functional pieces, it becomes effortless for them to create stylish ensembles for any occasion. The value I bring in my role is assistance with selecting casual and elegant outfits that will stand the test of time and ensure you are always ‘date ready’ whatever the occasion."

Anna Clark earned a law degree, but the early days of her legal career in an office setting clashed with her creative flair. Opting for a career shift, Anna underwent retraining as a professional photographer. She subsequently enjoyed numerous fulfilling years working in advertising and editorial photography. Over time, her skills and ability extended into a successful career of fashion, home and food styling. Career highlights for Anna include dressing many celebrities, actors and television personalities for TV shows, glamorous red carpet events, magazines and film.

Anna is enthusiastic about assisting individuals as they embark on new relationships, ensuring they both look and feel their best.

Frequently Asked Questions

All your questions answered

Absolute discretion and safety-first screening.

Privacy and protection of material as well as safety of our members is a priority for us. That’s why Compatico is unequivocally private and secure.

High standards of respect and etiquette.

We have carefully curated a network of accomplished and successful individuals who all respect our Compatico community and guidelines.

We measure our success by your success.

While it is difficult to define success when it comes to love, connection and compatibility, rest assured we are your cheerleaders and confidantes and will give you the very best chance to be successfully matched.

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