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Dating at 70: Confident New Beginnings | Sunday Star Times

Confidently dating at 70 - beat the nerves and make a fresh start

Tiare Tolks has a background as a psychologist, relationship therapist and corporate leadership coach, and is the Managing Partner - Relationship Expert for Compatico.co.nz, a premium matchmaking service for over-40s. In her fortnightly column for the Sunday Star-Times, she addresses reader questions and shares tips for nurturing healthy and fulfilling relationships.

OPINION: My wife passed away six years ago and I have just retired. I’d like to meet someone, but I feel really nervous about dating at 70 and don’t know where to start.

Congratulations on your retirement! I’m hearing that this feels like the right time to start a new chapter in your life. You will want to enjoy and share your vitality and free time with a special companion, and whilst this will open up a world of possibility, it feels a bit daunting. Acknowledge your nervous part, tell it you are awesome and fine and get ready to launch yourself with gentle intention into your new chapter.

To get the ball rolling into your next decades of companionship, novelty and - if you choose to view it this way - adventure, it might help to take it step by step.

Step 1: Know who you are and what you want in a new relationship.

Our identity, values and life goals can change at the various stages of our lives. Seventy is a good time to pause, reflect, and get clear about the shape and texture of your ideal next decades. What will a fulfilling and meaningful future life look like? Who do you want to be? It's an opportunity for an update, a pivot or a recognition that you are comfortable with how your life is rolling, as it is.

Read the full article here.